Sunday, June 6, 2010

Figured out how to post again

For the longest time my page was stuck on Russian, but now its not so I will try to update a bit.

We now have both of our boys. Court was on Mon the 31st, and it went fine. Very strange, but fine. I was shocked and apalled at the courthouse. It was a disgustingly rundown junkbox out in the middle of nowhere. We were all dressed up and walked to the front door only to be taken on by a pack of wild dogs who apparently didn't like us interupting their afternoon nappy.

We went in and I just had to breathe deep and tell myself it was going to be ok. There were several women clomping around in revealing sequined mini dresses and ultra high stilettos and the warped floor boards of the building were cracking and falling apart with nails sticking out. I swear there is just something I am not understanding here.

Anyway, we finished court. We had already had Ian staying with us for several days, so we went to get Andre. Now we are waiting the 10 day appeal period out and getting to know each other very well.

I love these boys SO MUCH. For all the torture little Andre has endured he is doing amazingly well. He just loves life and was abandoned at such a young age, that every little freedom is huge to him. Every day he just paces around in awe of the toys, video games, food, bathtub and family that he has suddenly acquired. He loves for me to hold him like a baby monkey and doesn't ever want to let go. He is very hyperactive and is challenging to deal with at times being locked up in an apartment, but when he is reprimanded he responds well. I love him and Thank God that he is ok. He needs constant attention but with each day gets a little better. He loves to fill the bathtub and just play in the water forever. He eats constantly and chews massive amounts of gum. Things will definitely change in America, but for the time being, we need to survive this and let a few things slide.

Ian is a Mama's boy and is eager to be the very best he can be. He has wanted this for a long time and has a plan. He must have talked someone at the orphanage into teaching him the English alphabet, and then taught himself how to read small words. I am so proud of him. He is a gentleman and he opens doors, carries my bag, takes out garbage, helps me clean, keeps his little brother in line, reminds me that I need to sit down and eat too, all without being asked. He truly has deep consideration and feelings for others. I feel like I have won the lottery. He is an angel. He loves to do schoolwork and show it to me with pride. He loves to collect certain things. He shows love, gives hugs and kisses and holds hands. It is good stuff.

I will never forget the first night we were together as an entire family, he helped me set the tiny kitchen table and we all sat down. He was smiling from ear to ear and waited patiently for everyone to join. He then looked at me and said, "Mommy, Daddy, Parker, Ian, Andre. This me family." I know this has been his dream since he could remember (his director told me). He is absolutely awesome. He refuses to answer to Ihar or Igur anymore, he reminds everyone, "Me Ian Frank Corbett." He is so mild tempered but able to flip into survival mode in no time at all. The kid in the yard area out back tried to steal his ball then picked up a 10" piece of plate glass and told Ian he was going to slit his wrists first, then his throat and kill him. Ian started laughing and knocked the glass out of his hand and shoved him to the ground in a matter of seconds. I didn't think it was funny and was yelling DOME! DOME! DOME! (home). Its like he has this tough side that he just hides so well and really doesn't want to have to use ever again. I am so happy to be their safe haven, they don't have to fight to survive anymore.

I hope they quit eating everything in the house because their little tummys are sick from pigging out so hard. This is something I've heard about, and I hope we get a handle on it soon after we get home.

I signed them both up for Firebirds Soccer in Sept. I can't wait to see them flourish in America. I know they will be happy and so will we.

Parker is adjusting well to having brothers. It is quite the change from being the only child to having two brothers immediately. He has had a couple scraps with them and a few arguements, but with each one we work through it and find a solution. I think I will take Parker to lunch just the two of us tomorrow when we have our driver back in town for some special alone time together so we can chat.

I wish I could have blogged everyday like Christy did. I really have some funny stories that I have forgotten now. This place is otherworldly to me. Mostly because I have never had to actually live in a place like this before. Sometimes when traveling, I have been through some crummy towns to get to the tourist spots, but have never actually become a resident of such an undesirable place. It has been something I do not regret however, because we as a family have become extremely grateful for what we have, and for each other. Wow are we lucky! To be born in such a wonderful country to parents who loved us. To have education available and dental and medical care. To have clean water and electricity and plumbing. To have money for food that we can buy whenever we want from a variety of choices. USSR was a sad and miserable existence for many people that I have talked to. I have become lifelong friends with a few and can not believe what people have lived through in this area really recently. This has been an eye-opening, humbling experience to say the least. To have to get up at 5am to wait in a bread line is something I have never done, and I should be very grateful for that. I have hope for this country but it is in its infancy of hopefully moving forward toward a democracy. In the meantime, I will be happy to get my boys and myself home to the good ol USA~

With Love,
Sonya

12 comments:

  1. Oh Sonya!! I am so glad to hear from you and your post was precious! You have so many more cute and funny stories ahead of you so don't feel bad about what you missed.
    I am so glad you've got Andre out of that hideous hospital and I'm so glad the boys are bonding and loving being in a family.
    Thanks so much for sharing this post.
    Be careful!
    Much love,
    Wendy

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  2. Your words are so genuine. We can feel your love for these kids. It's evident that these boys are ecstatic to have a home, a family and lots of love. The fact that Ian knows this and appreciates it so much already is so special. Their going to make you so proud. We can't wait to meet your boys again.

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  3. Hi Sonya, we have all been waiting for your posts everyday, so happy things are going well for your new precious family. It's definately a learning curve, but things just keep getting better, especially when you are on your home turf. Keep up the blog!

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  4. It is wonderful to hear from you. I have been hoping you are doing o.k. The boys seem so sweet and you are doing a great job. The countdown to coming home is on:)

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  5. So good to finally read you! Your family sounds wonderful and your three boys are so special! I admire Parker for welcoming 2 brothers and doing so well. He has a big soul. I enjoyed reading about Andre and Ian, about your perspective on things. I'm glad that you will soon be home and start as a new family with a grateful heart for what you have and the country you live in!

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  6. Wow! Your boys sound sweet and adorable, I can't wait to meet them. It brought tears to my eyes to read about your new little family and the eagerness of those little boys to please. Through adversity comes growth and it sounds like those boys have done a lot of growing. I am so happy for you guys! Safe trip home!

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  7. Sonja what is your email address? I want to sent you a quick email about something if you don't mind.

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  8. Sonya,
    This is the most beautiful story of compassion, wisdom and just sheer love. I read this with tears streaming down my face.
    I know, as you do, how difficult it was to bring our boys into the world...and now you have three!!! Wow! It's so incredible and amazing. Thank you so much for including me on this blog. I just think the world of you, Dean and Parker...and now your new sons. They are amazing and resilient little souls!!! I can't wait to meet them.

    Love you, and can't wait to see you and the entire family soon!!!!

    Andrea Malouf (and John and JJ)

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  9. Sonya,
    I'm just so worried about you guys. I hope you're heading home soon. I would email instead of comment but I don't have your email address. I respect the fact that you are not blogging and keeping your experience private-I just know how it gets over there and hope you're hanging in there and all is well. Just drop a line and let us know you're okay.
    Much love,
    Wendy
    Or email richharts@msn.com

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  10. I heard you're home!!! Welcome!!! Let me know if you have any Ukraine appliances to pass on-I'm looking for a hair dryer and straighter. We have a couple families leaving soon.
    I hope you are all adjusting well. Nothing beats being home does it? Clean sheets, fluffy warm towels, garbage disposals and dishwashers. The list goes on and on.
    Don't feel alone if you're having a difficult time adjusting. The first few months are CRAZY and we've all been there. Don't hesitate to call or email or if you need to bring the boys over and let them hang out with Alex and take a break....you are more then welcome!

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  11. Hey there Wendy and Amy! I have some stuff for you. Please give me your addresses and I will get it to you asap! We have been traveling most the summer and am now just getting back to home life. Thanks guys! Everything is great with the boys!

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  12. Oh btw, my email address is sonya84108@comcast.net

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